this place is a disaster zone!
i have been packing like a mad woman all day, and i am just so excited!
i am more thrilled to move to cali than i was to paris, (my most favorite place!)
anywho, there is just so much to be done; between getting a gps, cleaning this place out and the details of transporting our stuff 3000 mi; changing billing addresses and getting the car tuned up...ahh! will the list ever end?
it is just so worth it. what could beat a fantastic place on the beach with the one you love and your dog? life feels quite sunny.
although, self improvement note: if there was such a thing as too much coffee and chocolate, today i may have reached the brink. a serious run needs to happen tomorrow!
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
Tuesday, April 1, 2008
Seeking Advice:
i'm not trying to make something out of nothing, i just want our relationship to be as amazing as possible and for us to understand each other the very best we can...
i love that neither of us is conventional. maybe this is just apart of accepting people and not expecting the world? either way, any input would be so appreciated, i am totes down for some personal growth.
so i've been thinking. this is actually THE reoccurring problem between us. the problem is that we see these small actions incredibly differently, and what better place to get an objective opinion than right here!
in the situation in which g was referring to in the post before last is something way too trivial not to find a way to overcome. in that situation, i was over g's parent's house and i was very tired. (i had been up all night the night before.) g and i had just watched south park, eaten broc. pizza (our fav!) and enjoyed some terrific wine from a local vineyard. we had a totally perfect night.
it was getting late and rainy and i knew i was overtired and had to leave. so eventually i got up out of my comfy spot and asked him to walk me out. (i was parked down the street, it was late and the street light was out) he said no.
this is a problem, stupid right? this is the sort of situation that makes him feel as though i am being controlling and when we fight dirty, might go to say so (along with needy and bitchy.)
on the contrary, i happen to see it quite differently. to me, i feel it is being a gentleman to walk me out when i have to drive and it is dark. and when we fight dirty i might say selfish, (along with inconsiderate and jerk.)
so i get frustrated, because i don't understand why you wouldn't do something small for someone you love. and he gets irked, because he feels it is me being demanding.
for him its a control thing. for me, it's a respect thing.
i feel i would do the same for him; to me those small kindnesses are what make a relationship.
i think its something we need to confront, and nip in the bud. neither of us are the sort to sweat the small stuff. but this is reoccurring (in various situations.)
so, what's the damage?
i know it's not that one of us is right or wrong, in fact we are both just seeing it differently. but something has got to give so we can view this on the same page, ( just as we do with politics and music and everything else.) do we need to overcome our different interpretations, or learn to mutually pacify?
how do we do this?
is this classic men and women on different planets or what?
you can't change people, i don't want to. i love who he is. he loves who i am. is this really so petty? how do we get past this?
i'm willing to do whatever i can so this is as stupid as, well it is...call me out. i'm down for constructive criticism; i want to be a better person.
i love that neither of us is conventional. maybe this is just apart of accepting people and not expecting the world? either way, any input would be so appreciated, i am totes down for some personal growth.
so i've been thinking. this is actually THE reoccurring problem between us. the problem is that we see these small actions incredibly differently, and what better place to get an objective opinion than right here!
in the situation in which g was referring to in the post before last is something way too trivial not to find a way to overcome. in that situation, i was over g's parent's house and i was very tired. (i had been up all night the night before.) g and i had just watched south park, eaten broc. pizza (our fav!) and enjoyed some terrific wine from a local vineyard. we had a totally perfect night.
it was getting late and rainy and i knew i was overtired and had to leave. so eventually i got up out of my comfy spot and asked him to walk me out. (i was parked down the street, it was late and the street light was out) he said no.
this is a problem, stupid right? this is the sort of situation that makes him feel as though i am being controlling and when we fight dirty, might go to say so (along with needy and bitchy.)
on the contrary, i happen to see it quite differently. to me, i feel it is being a gentleman to walk me out when i have to drive and it is dark. and when we fight dirty i might say selfish, (along with inconsiderate and jerk.)
so i get frustrated, because i don't understand why you wouldn't do something small for someone you love. and he gets irked, because he feels it is me being demanding.
for him its a control thing. for me, it's a respect thing.
i feel i would do the same for him; to me those small kindnesses are what make a relationship.
i think its something we need to confront, and nip in the bud. neither of us are the sort to sweat the small stuff. but this is reoccurring (in various situations.)
so, what's the damage?
i know it's not that one of us is right or wrong, in fact we are both just seeing it differently. but something has got to give so we can view this on the same page, ( just as we do with politics and music and everything else.) do we need to overcome our different interpretations, or learn to mutually pacify?
how do we do this?
is this classic men and women on different planets or what?
you can't change people, i don't want to. i love who he is. he loves who i am. is this really so petty? how do we get past this?
i'm willing to do whatever i can so this is as stupid as, well it is...call me out. i'm down for constructive criticism; i want to be a better person.
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